It is possible.
Identity is a tricky thing. We cannot tell you what you identify as, nor can anyone else. Only you can decide whether or not you personally believe that you fit into the category of polyamory.
Having said that, polyamory is very broad. It does include asexual/demisexual/grey-A romantic relationships/friendships. In any “poly blob” there may be asexual romantic members that have deep emotional connections and feelings to one another. There is no rule saying polyamory is just for people engaging in sexual activity.
However, you do not have to identify as polyamorous. There are no social expectations that anyone should have only 1 “close friend”.
[L : My first experience in polyamory was as an asexual romantic partner in a 5 person group. I had romantic friendships with the other 4 members, and did not engage in anything besides cuddling, deep conversation, and in general having the most amazing time together ever. I personally find it hard to draw the line between “relationships” and “friendships” due to this positive experience.]
So, if you have multiple romantic friendships and this is how you have a deep, personal, romantic bond with someone, then yes, that could fall under polyamory if you choose to identify that way. Alternatively, you could also choose not to identify as polyamorous given there’s no social expectation to be monogamous in friendship.
An interesting read may be found here. The article is called “Poly Friendships” and was published in the Journal of Lesbian Studies in 1999 by Esther Rothblum. This article gives some great insight into the social/cultural differences between romantic friendship and romantic relationship in terms of polyamory/monogamy.
As a side note: Romantic friendships are a beautiful, amazing thing and anyone lucky enough to be involved in one should treat them with the respect they deserve through open communication and honesty (i.e. the same respect that every relationship in your life deserves).
We hope that this helps you find your answer,
Love Infinite,
Fuck Yeah Polyamory
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