Start a conversation. Start talking openly and honestly about relationship values. Gradually (if you are comfortable) get to the topic of monogamy vs. polyamory and don’t be afraid to expose yourself if things are going well. This conversation doesn’t have a time limit - it’s an ongoing sharing of experience and personal belief between two people to check if there is common ground. It could be 20 minutes until you eventually ask if it doesn’t seem like the person will just tell you, or it could be 6 months. There’s no end point to this conversation besides the one you both create. Even after the person says “yes,” “maybe,” “no,” or some other variation of an answer, the conversation can continue with the individual nuances specific to what they believe, deep down, about how they work as an individual that can love and interact with the world. It’s always important to consider how another person feels even if their views differ from yours.
Because there’s no one right way to be polyamorous (though there are some wrong ways!) it’s hard to guess what an individual will mean when they say “I’m Polyamorous”. That’s part of why this conversation is so important. It also helps in the long run by building trust to enable the conversation about such a topic to continue.
Hope this answered your question,
Love Infinite,
L
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