December 2011
160 posts
The Key Factors to Polyamory →
proudpoly:
In talking about polyamory relationship success, I do take as a given that you’re a rational grown-up. Relationships are for grown-ups. If you’re not a grown-up, fix that, first. Own your own shit, realize the world doesn’t revolve around you, have some basic self-knowledge and the ability to communicate honestly. If you don’t have those things[1], this article isn’t going to be...
Today I...: Wow. that post about being polyamorous →
stellaspecialist:
was not me hating on people who choose polyamory. i was simply stating that it seems ridiculous TO ME and i described how it sounded TO ME. you can say i’m wrong all you want but i will never change my mind about it. IT IS MY OPINION SO DON’T TRY TO LECTURE ME OR CORRECT…
Today I...: I am actually 100% okay with people... →
jtoday:
There are people who have considered it, have discussed it, have read about it, have talked with people who experience it, have looked at it throughout history and as it stands in modern society and still believe it is a less valid form of relationships than monogamy.
I’m okay with this. This is…
Handling the holidays while poly from... →
proudpoly:
Check out the Podcast…
This time of year can be difficult for anyone in a non-traditional relationship, which is why this recent Polyamory Weekly podcast is so important and helpful.
Hope some find it useful.
xo cactus/proudpoly
Poly problems #2
polyamouryproblems:
When one of your partners lets you know that they’re worried you’re polyamorous because they’re not good enough, and then you feel kind of guilty for being who you are.
(And then you feel bad for feeling bad for centreing yourself when you should be explaining how each partner is special and has a different place in your heart)
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I'd like to submit this for all the Doctor Who...
http://www.polyinpictures.com/2011/04/08/50-wibbly-wobbly/
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We have this blog and its awesome!
Its about being queer and living life. A lot has to do with being poly and lives. Everyone should check it out! We’re just starting off, but there is plenty to come! :)
http://upsideoutinsidedown.tumblr.com/
artoftransliness:
Have you all ever posted this link?
http://forge-forward.org/
They specialize in helping trans* sexual assault survivors.
Our Response: No, we hadn’t posted this because we actually didn’t know it existed! Great resource!
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Happy Holidays, Christmas, and New Year!
We would like to wish all of our members a very happy holiday season. We hope that you’re all enjoying the family time that seems built into this time of year, whether it be with the families we choose, or the ones to which we are born. Please enjoy the weather, if it be sunny and warm for summer or blustery and precipitatory.
At this time of year everything around us is reminding us to...
Big Areolas are Better!: 30 Things to Stop Doing... →
sweetteeblog:
Stop spending time with the wrong people.
Stop running from your problems.
Stop lying to yourself.
Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
Stop trying to be someone you’re not.
Stop trying to hold onto the past.
Stop being scared to make a mistake.
Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.
sexgenderbody: On Purity Education and Its... →
theskinofourteeth:
daleksanddaisies:
Hey guys. Let’s talk about purity. I was raised in a Baptist church in the Deep South. I had a purity ring, and most of my bookshelf was stuffed with titles about “wearing white” and being “pure” and do you know what? The choice to not have sex…
So many of us are left with guilt that we slowly deal with over time. This says so much…
“When I say, “I love you,” it’s not because I want you or because I can’t have...”
– Joss Whedon (via dezchavez)
That Blog About That Queer Kid: How to Still Have... →
iragray:
Are you afraid that your dysphoria will render you incapable of having enjoyable sex? Do you avoid having sex (assuming you want to to begin with) because you’re not sure how you’ll react? These are perfectly valid concerns, and no one should tell you otherwise. This post isn’t meant to pressure…
There are many meanings to the word “sex” - these do not have to mean...
Hospital Dreams: Tell ABC Not to Air "Work It" →
amydentata:
pompadoursandpincurls:
lgbtlaughs:
gqmoments:
‘Work It’ makes a mockery of transgender peoples struggles in the work place and empowers those with dormant transphobia to act on those urges with violence. It reinforces the biased stereotypical misogynistic social…
The Black Attack!: Socks →
emileeleann:
I am notorious for wearing mismatched socks, so today, like any other day, I crawled across the winter wear mountains of my closet in hopes of finding just two socks
After moments of digging, I found some One was yours and one was mine
As I slipped your sock onto my foot I…
Bespectacled, Bibliophilic, and Bemused: My... →
bemusedlybespectacled:
So I was waxing my legs today (not the best time for philosophical thoughts, I admit) and had this idea. I know a lot of people define love, how you know you’re in love, whatever, but here are my thoughts on it, at least.
Love is knowing you can have someone else, but choose not to for…
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A Poly Searching: I want:to feel her fingers... →
apolysearching:
I want:
to feel her fingers running through my hair;
to feel her tracing my skin with her nails;
to fall asleep with her in my arms;
to wake up with her kissing my cheek;
to curl up on the couch with her;
to walk hand in hand with her;
to walk hand in hand with her and M;
to fall asleep…
goddessblood:
I kind of really like the women in the show sister wives because they really like each other and a lot of times it seems like they want to be in the polygamist family because of the other women and not because of the men
Just something interesting I value people thinking about
Link: Adventures in Polyamory →
polyponderous:
“We’re a funny lot, Americans. We use sex to sell everything in sight, but we want to act like prudes when it comes to the actual subject and treat sex like it’s something to be ashamed of or cannot be used as a means to entertainment. Some people act like we’re stuck with checkers. We’re not. Sex is fun. And neither love nor sex needs to be relegated to a lone...
on polyamory →
vanishchannel3:
what does competition have to do with Love? Love seeks to fittinglie embrace someone.. competition aims to forcefully hold something. learning people helps one to know one’s self, which helps one to Love others. if i saw married adults who seemed to be still growing in this through their marriages, i might be more convinced of the good in monogamy. seriously, however: that has...
Lost and Listening: Multiple Personalities of... →
ll101:
At least when you’re not out. All of the LGBT folks who paved the way, who lived dual lives - what agony that must have been. What agony it still is for anyone who doesn’t feel that they can be completely who they are, LGBT, Kinky, Poly.
When you enter into the world of kink or poly, especially…
Attempted Danger: Monogamy makes absolutely no... →
outlawroad:
I can, to some degree, understand sexual monogamy. But it’s still unnecessary and arguably, contradictory to human biology.
“Emotional monogamy” or “mental monogamy” is offensive to me. It strikes a deep chord as being fucked up and wrong for so many reasons.
The more I read about couplehood and…
A Blog Called Everything: Unmasking The Green-Eyed... →
a-blog-called-everything:
Bellow is an excerpt from from this article. I highly recommend you read the whole thing.
Our society is addicted to three core beliefs about relationships that are almost guaranteed to create jealousy even in the most well-adjusted people. Most of us have absorbed these beliefs without…
: monkey told, monkey do I’ll do it too, just... →
i-heart-peaches:
monkey told, monkey do I’ll do it too, just because you asked me maybe it’ll provide more comfort less fear of the potential for hurt feelings for me, time is of the essence for you, time is a luxury you might need two hands to illustrate the depth of your heart but all I require are my index…
Elizabeth Marquardt: Get Ready for Group Marriage... →
“Love is a strange thing, Richard,” she said quietly, stroking the palm of his...”
– Kahlan Amnell in my fic, expressing my thoughts on love. Oh the trials of explaining polyamory to people…
And for the record, polyamory isn’t just about sex/romance. It’s about friends and family and everything in your life. A poly person doesn’t make choices. There is no such thing as lover vs....
Love Like an Ocean →
likefunnyhow:
not quite aptly titled, as it lack some depth. but a good, quick polyamory starter
comawhite-:
You know that saying, “If you love two men, go for the second, because if you really loved the first you wouldn’t have fallen for the second”?
Yeah, fuck that.
I’ll take both my men…
and both my women.
“We feel very strongly that we should not base our limits on how, when and where...”
– http://freethoughtblogs.com/wwjtd/2011/11/23/christinas-take-on-my-first-weekend-in-polyamory/ (via sometimesalwaysandnever)
How the fuck is polygamy not only illegal in the...
outlawroad:
Look at this shit.
I fucking hate that the government regulates marriage. What the fuck business is it of theirs? This is America. I should be able to marry my God damn self if I want to.
Legal marriage either needs to be abolished or totally privatized. That’s the only way there will ever be true equality, not just in terms of who can get married but also in terms of equality...
Compare and Contrast: Polyamory vs. Polygamy →
tigerpixie:
Thanks Amber! This was really insightful! I didn’t even know there was a difference. I love learning things.
Look at me babe, I'm hysterical.: Okay I just have... →
twbasketcase:
I understand how bisexuals get sick and tired of being labelled with the stereotype that we sleep around, that we’re sluts, or that we’re greedy and just try and get all the sex for ourselves (or whatever the fuck else I’m seeing/hearing go around). Stereotypes suck especially when they are not…
Monogamous/Monamorous Privilege Checklist →
mylifeasasassymannequin:
For the purposes of this list, I will refer to one’s position on the diagram of monogamy vs. various types of non-monogamy (polyamory, open marriage, swinging, religious polygyny, etc.) as simply “relationship orientation”.
Note that for the purposes of this list, “relationship orientation” does NOT refer to one’s sexual orientation re: the Kinsey scale (heterosexual,...