FuckYeahPolyamory: Archive

FuckYeahPolyamory

February 2012

38 posts

Anonymous asked: I've been wondering for a while now, would romantic friendships count as polyamory for someone who identifies as asexual, demisexual, grey-A, etc.?

Polycule: I'm trying to expand my network of... →

herpsiderp: Reblog (or like if you are more comfortable) if you’re polyamorous or a poly blog and I’ll check you out/99% likely that I’ll follow you :) It’s an ongoing adventure and learning experience being poly, and I want to connect with as many of you out there as possible so we can all…

i, grok.: Consent →

deltumbles: lets-blog-about-sex-baby: Consent is one of the single most important aspect of any relationship, especially one that is sexual or might become sexual. The biggest thing to remember about consent is that it is not ongoing, meaning that a partner may give consent at one…

10 Things the American Media Really Need to Learn... →

isthisthevoid: Great piece: Of all the national conversations suffering for lack of rigorous debate and actual facts, the sexual conversation is one most likely to turn otherwise professional journalists and pundits into alarmists and preachers. When editors and writers aren’t just playing to America’s persistent sexual ignorance, they’re deepening it: pegging stories to stereotypes, ...

I fucking hate polyamory.

suicidescollide: Nothing has ever made me feel as insecure as loving someone who’s poly. This says a lot. Think about this statement. “Nothing has ever made me feel as insecure as ___________________” This mentality comes up time and time again. It is critical for people to recognize why this reaction is such an integral part of why groups of people are stigmatized.

Why I wish being Poly was more acceptable in the...

thequeenonthewall: Today I had to be explained as my girlfriend’s sister… I felt like this… then like this when I got asked if I was my BF’s daughter… I wish it was more acceptable to be in a poly relationship in the real world. It sucks to have to lie and it just crushes my heart to have to lie about something that makes me so happy. being able to share my life on here is a great...

VenusPlusX: The Sexual Freedom Project: Discussing... →

venusplusx: *en español abajo Are polyamory and non-monogamy one in the same or are they different? Do you think either could be beneficial to a relationship? Make a video, write a poem, song, or an essay — or even create an original work of art — and express your thoughts. If we feature your…

Ghost horse.: I love the idea of polyamory. →

landlockedmermaidblues: I myself am monogamous & I know I am not cut out for this style of relationship. However, I have a very good friend who is polyamorous & she is so happy & secure in her life with her boyfriend & his girlfriend of 6+ years. I’d never be able to be in a relationship with two people in this way, nor…

Untitled: I Have Loved Many... →

jaredb777: I have loved many people. Some of them in different ways. Some of them in the same ways. It is not the ways or the myriad reasons that we love someone that makes that love real or valid or a magnificently powerful experience it is the fact that we love them for who and what that unique individual…

Musings of a Melancholy Guy: What's Your... →

melancholyguy: I am anxious for the day when you can just ask someone, “what’s you arrangement?”, and they answer the question simply, open, or poly, or monogamous, or partnered non-monogamy, or simply complicated, and all these answers are just accepted as completely legitimate. No judgement or wide awkward…

One's Enough Misery

bazilisk: Me: “Poly isn’t swinging. Swingers are mostly just after additional sex. Poly people believe that you can actually be in love with more than one person at once.” Friend: “I don’t know if I could handle that. There’s so much misery from being actually in love with just one person at a time.” I had this conversation this morning, and have been thinking about it off an on since. It’s...

Why I Just Got Tested and You Should Too:...

Imagine the web of people you have vicariously slept with through your other partners. Imagine how it keeps extending, becoming more complicated and convoluted. Imagine the moments when any of these lovers, out of passion, forgot protection. Imagine the moments when they had their hearts broken by a partner that lied to them, or denied information, about sexual involvement with another...

littlelostpoly2: I feel his cheek brush against mine While she slowly caresses my thigh With them both I feel such bliss Arising to each passionate kiss No one can say who I should love Being with two for me is a must Her soft kiss his warm embrace Getting to bed has become a race No matter when no matter how To them both I plead my vow Past the looks through the stares To him and her...

“What kind of relationship you have is your choice, and one choice isn’t better...”

– The Pervocracy: The end of normal. (via sexisnottheenemy)

“Jealousy is most common when somebody feels insecure, mistreated, threatened, or...”

– More Than Two | Polyamory: The Theory of Jealousy Management (via a-blog-called-everything) so, so, so true! (via littlelostpoly2)

Anonymous asked: I am in a poly relationship and my primary partner is getting extremely insecure about my relationship with my lover. I've read a lot about managing jealousy, but can insecurity be treated as jealousy? I feel like I just can't do enough to convince my primary that I still love her even when I am in a state of extreme infatuation with another partner.

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances:...”

– Carl Jung (via peaceloveandecstasy)

More Than Two | Polyamory Resources and Guidelines... →

Bonobo Love: Valentine's Advice From Christopher... →

polycule: From the author of Sex at Dawn.

Anonymous asked: I always thought I was just bad at monogamy until I met C who helped me realize that I was just polyamorous. As you can imagine I really like C and would love to be more intimate with her but my current partner G is really insecure and he doesn't understand why I would want to see anyone but him. I've tried several times to talk to him about it, but he responds from his insecurity with...

Hey there! Heads up: This is not a question about polyamory. I follow you on tumblr to keep connected to poly resources — i sense i am fairly well-versed (not a ‘newb’). Seeking advice isn’t my personal primary goal as a follower. A few weeks ago, you’d made a post titled “How Can We Make This Blog Better?” (or something to this extent here). When I...

Anonymous asked: What's a good way of asking if somebody is poly?

masteradrift asked: I just wanted to chime in on the anon who asked about dating and holding hands. We always hold hands when going out to public places like the movie theaters, restaurants or the mall. You could find all three of us nuzzling and kissing at the various street fairs in San Francisco. But yeah, kids - get a lawyer. As I understand it, it is easy enough to arrange in California. Not so easy in some...

altls asked: So, I don't have other committed relationships (well, I have not yet), but I have been fine with my wife having them for years. So, is she polyamorous? Are we polyamorous? If she is and I am not, what am I? How should I refer to my part in this?

Anonymous asked: My girlfriend and I are interested in an exclusive polyamorous relationship. This has raised all sorts of questions! Can we all three go out for dates? Do we all hold hands? What if hypothetically it got to the point of having kids? How do you even? Is it suddenly illegal at some point?

Anonymous asked: Hi! So um I'm a little curious about maybe possibly attempting to figure out if some kind of poly relationship(s?) would work better for me but I have no idea where to start! Your resources page seems a little bare and I guess I'm wondering if there's some sort of... I don't know, primer sort of thing that you can direct people to? (No one has all the answers, I know, but...

suchwishfulthinking asked: Hey there! So I just started dating my best friend, who is polyamorous. While I accept that, I still stand by my personal belief of monogamy. I love him, and I really want to stay with him, but do I have to 'be' with his other partners? How do I get over the feeling that comes with knowing that he has that same feelings about another person as he does about me? Am I being insecure or...

Anonymous asked: do you know of any good sites where I might be able to find and meet other local poly people?

January 2012

22 posts

“That “One True Love” myth that insists that there is only one true love for...”

– PolyFamilies:True Love (via a-blog-called-everything)

You’re Not as Special as You Think

Direct Source: http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2004/03/01/youre-not-as-special-as-you-think/ Originally posted on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope200403.html Gather ye round, little poly chillun, ’cause Mama Java’s got something to say to all of you. A lot of you poly people, in an attempt to explain that you’re not hedonistic sluts with the morals and sexual code of an alley cat...

Objections to polyamory →

Your lovers and romantic partners are not your property. You are not sharing what is yours in being polyamorous, you are just recognizing the reality that they will love other people and are grown up enough to not demand that they ignore this fact.

Link: Coming Out to Family, Do They Need To Know →

polyponderous: Many people find the holidays a stressful time, with holiday shopping and cooking and making plans to travel. For people who live alternative lifestyles it can be even more stressful. Perhaps there is a part of your lifestyle that your parents do not know about and would not approve of. Maybe they know and are openly judgmental. As the holidays approach and people go home to...

Link: BDSM and Polyamory →

polyponderous: BDSM has been around for ages. With the new portrayals of it in mainstream media, and numerous opportunities to learn about it today, it has become much more visible and common then in the past. Similarly, polyamory has been around since the 1970’, but the word and lifestyle are now just starting to become known. For many people, BDSM and polyamory go hand in hand. For...

One teacher's approach to preventing gender...

togetherforjacksoncountykids: “It’s Okay to be Neither,” By Melissa Bollow Tempel Alie arrived at our 1st-grade classroom wearing a sweatshirt with a hood. I asked her to take off her hood, and she refused. I thought she was just being difficult and ignored it. After breakfast we got in line for art, and I noticed that she still had not removed her hood. When we arrived at the art room, I said:...

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vanishchannel3 asked: sheesh; post something with which i disagree!.. i feel like a mimic! ;)

Polyamory in the News →

modernpoly: Seriously. Read this. Follow/tweet his posts. Look at previous entries. There’s a trend towards more positive depictions of polyamory in television and on the news. We’re f***ing excited <83 :)